How to Be a Dad

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The Wanted

Posted by on July 24th, 2014, under SNAPSHOTS

Finn, this weekend after I put you on a timeout you said to me, “You don’t want me anymore?” If I never hear those words again in my life it will be too soon. We talked about why you thought that, what it means to be an older brother and then I asked you a […]

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The Gloaming Light

Posted by on July 9th, 2014, under SNAPSHOTS

There is a wakefulness between the purity of the aware and the somnolence of sleep that feels like anything is possible. It’s better than a dream. It’s a waking dream under my command. I haven’t felt it in some time, but I know it could be just past the horizon line. I am nearly there. […]

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Father’s Daze: 13 Dads Reveal Their Struggle

Posted by on June 11th, 2014, under NOTEBOOK

As I’ve written about before, there is something happening in the lives of fathers and their careers today. While we define ourselves differently than we did 50 years ago, dads of all sorts are finding themselves in this position across the country, and beyond, of redefining who we are with a simple but profound question: […]

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Posted by on June 4th, 2014, under NOTEBOOK

Pain. It can remind us we’re alive. And it can also steal a little bit of that aliveness away. I’m sitting, right now, in a surgery wing and my infant son is about to go under the knife. Something we thought would go away has only gotten worse. It’s time to confront it. And hopefully, […]

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Sunrise or Sunset?

Posted by on May 30th, 2014, under NOTEBOOK

Parents, there will be days when you may misremember which day it is. You will put your socks on backwards and wear clothing inside-out, from rise to fall. You will click your car key at your front door, half-expecting it to open before you. You will forget your children’s names, your spouse’s name and maybe […]

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The Third First Day at School

Posted by on May 15th, 2014, under NOTEBOOK

My youngest son just had his first day at school. As it turned out, it was so much easier for him than it was for us. You’d think it’d be no big deal, Lucas being my third son, with my two older boys having been in school for nearly a decade. Nope. You’d be wrong. […]

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5 Things I Miss About Being Childless

Posted by on April 22nd, 2014, under NOTEBOOK

Becoming a parent was one of the most important and transformative things that has ever happened in my life. I can’t understate how much it’s changed me. I don’t think I ever truly understood what it meant to platonically love another human being until I had my boys. That being said… There are moments when […]

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A Journal Within A Journal

Posted by on April 10th, 2014, under NOTEBOOK

For the past five months, I’ve been writing in a different place and trying to record some of the things I want my boys to know. The impetus behind starting this site for me, however, was always a place to talk about the topics at hand and make fun of just about everything. I love […]

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Some Mistakes Are Like Diamonds and Last Forever

Posted by on April 1st, 2014, under NOTEBOOK

Okay so… Monday morning we woke up with the worst hangovers of our lives and very little recollection of the previous night. But we each had a reminder of the evening’s shenanigans. Tattoos. Matching f**king tattoos. Of our WEBSITE LOGO. Don’t worry, it gets even shittier. Here’s how it began. Rossshes aaare red. Wine issh […]

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My Wife Just Said… #150

Posted by on March 3rd, 2014, under "MY WIFE JUST SAID..."

“You know your life has changed when the most stressful thing of your day is clipping your baby’s fingernails. #idratherdefuseabomb” -Avara   It’s so surreal. The changes that happen when you become responsible for a child are many and massive. Every day there’s a new obstacle, a new crisis, a new learning curve for dealing with […]

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