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#BatKidSF Is The Hero We Need And Deserve

Posted by on November 20th, 2013, under EXTERNAL USE ONLY

I know we made a big deal out of the BatKid stuff last week, but you need the full story. So, here it is… Batkid from San Francisco Chronicle on Vimeo. If you don’t get somewhat emotional for this kid fighting cancer, you need to check yourself for a pulse. – Follow us on Facebook. […]

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Cinema Paradiso

Posted by on November 12th, 2013, under SNAPSHOTS

The movie theater is a transformative, magical place that rips you from your life and thrusts you headlong into magic, horror or a state of imaginative dance, once that projector starts. My father loved movies. I remember how he would play them over and over at home. I remember relentlessly trying to get him to […]

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Missing Pieces

Posted by on October 30th, 2013, under NOTEBOOK

A few readers have asked for the story of how my wife and I met. We’ve discussed aspects of it here and in interviews with legitimate websites/journalists (unlike the site you are now on). But it all started with the Internet. So let’s travel back in time, shall we? The year was 1993 and I […]

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A Little Girl’s Book of Poshens

Posted by on October 23rd, 2013, under SNAPSHOTS

Everyone knows kids look at the world through the magical lens of youth, but some of them document what they see. As a kid I was a poshen maker, too, so I was able to withstand the adorableness unharmed when a friend of mine posted pictures of her 6yo daughter’s book of potions…ehem “Poshens”. I […]

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Posted by on October 22nd, 2013, under NOTEBOOK

Pregnancy is a sensitive time. A couple can fall even more deeply in love during the experience and yet there are factors that often come between the two people. There can be a profound closeness as well as an intense loneliness. Mistakes can be made in the spaces, those absences. Painful. Mistakes. Today, I’m here […]

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Our Baby Hiccups

Posted by on October 17th, 2013, under VIDEOTAPE

My wife texted (cause that’s a word, right?) me this video from home yesterday. It all becomes so much more real when you see the heartbeat or watch them move. My little boy is bouncing around in there somewhere. He’s growing and developing. Most of the ultrasounds have had ample placenta covering his face, but […]

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The Circle Closes in the Land of Nod

Posted by on October 11th, 2013, under NOTEBOOK

We moved the weekend before last and everything has changed. Especially us. When you live in places without children of your own, there is no permanence. Having kids, no matter where you reside, anchors you to time and place like nothing else. I saw the pregnancy stick read positive in one apartment. I watched my […]

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The Year My Father Stayed Home with Me

Posted by on October 2nd, 2013, under VIDEOTAPE

This video was lost for about 15 years. I knew it existed but no matter how hard I searched, it seemed like I was imagining things. My father and I appeared on a local news program when I was a very young boy. Dad decided to leave behind his role as a radio DJ on […]

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My Kid Just Said… #30

Posted by on September 17th, 2013, under "MY KID JUST SAID..."

“I wish we had brown faces. Like Isaiah.” -Finn (August 2013, 3.8 years old)   Finn was so happy and buoyant in his statement that day after school. He looks up this young boy and simply considers his best friend’s color something aspirational, if only on a simplistic level. It’s just this beautiful afterthought about […]

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Atlas the Father

Posted by on September 12th, 2013, under NOTEBOOK

I remember seeing a towering statue when I was traveling through Italy as a young boy. The marble man’s face looked so determined, forehead wrinkled from strain, and his eyes set upon some faraway place. I thought the giant globe perched between his powerful back and open hands would fall at any moment. I couldn’t […]

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