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The Spark Inside Us

Posted by on March 15th, 2017, under SNAPSHOTS

A post shared by Charlie Capen (@charliecapen) on Mar 10, 2017 at 7:11pm PST My sons, There is an important distinction between being a puppet and the one who creates the magic. When you confuse yourself for your work or your art, you will lose track of the spark that makes you powerful. You animate […]

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Why Don’t Parents Let Kids Swear?

Posted by on February 23rd, 2017, under NOTEBOOK

Comic by Saturday Morning Breakfast Cereal comics My 7-year-old son recently learned some shiny new dirty words and has been asking me about them incessantly. I typically take a pretty casual approach to most of these kinds of subjects, but he kept asking about the meanings, derivations, proper pronunciations and histories of some REALLY fun […]

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Notorious B.I.G.: Best Babysitter Ever

Posted by on December 21st, 2016, under VIDEOTAPE

I’ve gone to great lengths to get my kids to sleep or calm down. Shushing, rocking, walking, driving around in a car — you name it and I’ve probably tried it. Each of my sons has very different needs when it comes to sleep, too. One needed sounds and rocking, the other basically just wanted […]

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Dad Trolls Daughters With Google Home

Posted by on December 9th, 2016, under VIDEOTAPE

Listen, I’m not above trolling my kids. Their whole life is dedicated to complicating mine, it seems, so turnabout is fair play. But this might be the most technologically advanced level of trolling I’ve ever seen. Google Home is a really interesting platform. It can do so many things and I find it sort of […]

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This Dad Gets It

Posted by on September 20th, 2016, under SNAPSHOTS

The following was posted on Facebook and shared into my feed last night. It sums up something I’ve been going through with my older son. Though Finn isn’t autistic he is a special brand of human: sensitive, brilliant, quirky, analytical, impulsive, hilarious. And this boy, below, seems like a brother from another mother. But I […]

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Parenting Without A Manual

Posted by on September 8th, 2016, under SNAPSHOTS

A photo posted by Charlie Capen (@charliecapen) on Sep 5, 2016 at 8:38pm PDT There are some days when I feel like I have no idea how to parent. You encounter a lot of imponderable stuff when you’re dealing with the formation of a human being. There are so many outcomes based on how strict, […]

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How To Dad: Dad Hands + Velcro

Posted by on July 28th, 2016, under VIDEOTAPE

Do you suffer from a case of “Dad Hands”? If you’ve tried to button little baby buttons on a baby’s onesie then you know the flushed anger and terror of trying to slip a tiny circle inside of a tiny opening with a writhing worm child. It’s the worst. So, as this father has put […]

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What I Worry About

Posted by on July 22nd, 2016, under NOTEBOOK

Occasionally, a parent-to-be will come and ask me for advice about parenting. Crazy, right? They’re so focused on what could happen or what to do, they miss one of the most important elements of the whole process. It’s not for lack of trying or thoughtfulness, but most of us start off with a mindset that […]

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The Conceit of Clark Kent

Posted by on July 14th, 2016, under NOTEBOOK

We’ve all donned, at one time or another, a costume made from something pretend. A hero, a princess, a warrior, an artist — we found our identity through this play. Imaginations have always been part and parcel to the fabric of childhood but we grew up, forced to focus on the road ahead, and we […]

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How To Fail Beautifully

Posted by on June 24th, 2016, under VIDEOTAPE

I’ve talked a bunch about trying to teach my older son the value of losing and making mistakes. It’s been a battle. I’ve given him lots of examples of how losing or failing can lead to bigger or more sustained success, but he still can’t quite grasp the concept. Instead, I’m thinking of just showing […]

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