How to Be a Dad

How to Be a Dad

Finn

The Gloaming Light

Posted by on July 9th, 2014, under SNAPSHOTS

There is a wakefulness between the purity of the aware and the somnolence of sleep that feels like anything is possible. It’s better than a dream. It’s a waking dream under my command. I haven’t felt it in some time, but I know it could be just past the horizon line. I am nearly there. […]

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Pizzaissance!

Posted by on July 2nd, 2014, under NOTEBOOK

I have been designing pizzas in my mind since I was a very little boy living in San Francisco. While everyone else was eating macro-chaotic, mega-veggie, orange peel pizzofu or whatever, I craved the real deal. Finn had an idea to make this little video. Such a rad, little writer! You see, my childhood heroes […]

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My Kid Just Said… #50

Posted by on June 2nd, 2014, under "MY KID JUST SAID..."

“You know what I would do if I had The Force? Tickle YOU for once.” -Finn (2014, 4.5 years old)  We started watching Episode IV: A New Hope of Star Wars awesomeness. Finn is in. All the way. He did way better than I even anticipated. After we finished our first round, he said this […]

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Sunrise or Sunset?

Posted by on May 30th, 2014, under NOTEBOOK

Parents, there will be days when you may misremember which day it is. You will put your socks on backwards and wear clothing inside-out, from rise to fall. You will click your car key at your front door, half-expecting it to open before you. You will forget your children’s names, your spouse’s name and maybe […]

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Storming the Beaches

Posted by on May 20th, 2014, under NOTEBOOK

Another installment from my Instagram account, @CharlieCapen where I capture thoughts, and release them back into the ether of Instagram. But mainly, it’s a journal for my two boys. Typos are free of charge. “Finn: Today we woke at 6:30am and drove to the beach to see what answers we could find. Just the two […]

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My Kid Just Said… #48

Posted by on May 14th, 2014, under "MY KID JUST SAID..."

“We should rename Arden. His new name should be Squeaky Cheeks.” -Finn (2014, 4.5 years old)  Coming up with Arden’s name was pretty difficult. I think choosing boys’ names is actually harder than choosing a girl’s for some reason. Not sure why exactly, but there’s so much history with a boy’s name for me. I […]

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My Kid Just Said… #46

Posted by on April 30th, 2014, under "MY KID JUST SAID..."

“When I’m a grandpa and you’re a baby again, I’m going to give you lots of toys.” -Finn (2014, 4.5 years old)   My son’s concept of time is… interesting. “Yesterday” could mean two years ago or two minutes ago as far as he’s concerned. It would give Einstein a heart attack and make Carl […]

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My Kid Just Said… #45

Posted by on April 18th, 2014, under "MY KID JUST SAID..."

“”Why does she sound like Darth Vader?” -Finn (2014, 4.5 years old)   Children oversimplify things. It’s just what they roll. My son was out with my wife while she ran some errands. A lady came up to them and asked them a question. She must’ve had some previous esophageal cancer or larynx ailment because […]

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An Interview with my Son: 30 Years from Now

Posted by on April 16th, 2014, under NOTEBOOK

I write too much about the present and the past. I’m stuck here, most days, too tired to dip into the future. So, I’m making this post an exercise in time travel. Sometimes, I look into my sons’ eyes and see moments we haven’t yet had. It’s thrilling. And terrifying. I snapped at Finn tonight […]

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My Kid Just Said… #38

Posted by on January 20th, 2014, under "MY KID JUST SAID..."

“Dis man hewped people become fwiends. Brown people, owange people, pink people… [lists every color possible]. All of dem.” -Finn (2013, 4 years old)   I asked him a simple question: “Why do we have a holiday on Monday?” My son has such an awesome take on race. Here’s hoping that one day, MLK’s dream […]

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