How to Be a Dad

How to Be a Dad


My Son’s Receding Hairline

Posted by on August 27th, 2015, under NOTEBOOK

Of my many faults, some stand out more than others in my day-to-day activities. Being born to Irish descent, I contend with more than a few stereotypical issues I feared my first son would inherit, namely: bad teeth, skin and devout stubbornness. I am piously pigheaded. When my first son was born with a pretty […]

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Your Time Here

Posted by on November 20th, 2014, under NOTEBOOK

Dear Finn, Let me tell you the story of your life. Know that there will be exceptions, but this is the grand accounting of your human journey. You were born to two loving parents and these parents were afraid they would break you. They drove slowly coming home and lost a good deal of sleep […]

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My Kid Just Said… #54

Posted by on August 13th, 2014, under "MY KID JUST SAID..."

Finn: “Will I ever die?” Me: “What do you think, bug?” Finn: “I never die. We start over, growing again from our skulls.” Me: “Does that mean I could be your son? And will you take care of me when I’m old?” Finn: “Yep. I’ll give you lots of kisses.” -Dad & Finn (2014, 4.75 […]

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My Kid Just Said… #52

Posted by on July 30th, 2014, under "MY KID JUST SAID..."

Certain relatives, who shall remain nameless, reminded me shortly before my second son was born how much my brother and I fought as kids. While I wasn’t anticipating this with my little ones, I was wary somewhere inside. I remember feeling like there wasn’t as much attention available for me. But I wanted these two […]

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The Gloaming Light

Posted by on July 9th, 2014, under SNAPSHOTS

There is a wakefulness between the purity of the aware and the somnolence of sleep that feels like anything is possible. It’s better than a dream. It’s a waking dream under my command. I haven’t felt it in some time, but I know it could be just past the horizon line. I am nearly there. […]

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Posted by on July 2nd, 2014, under NOTEBOOK

I have been designing pizzas in my mind since I was a very little boy living in San Francisco. While everyone else was eating macro-chaotic, mega-veggie, orange peel pizzofu or whatever, I craved the real deal. Finn had an idea to make this little video. Such a rad, little writer! You see, my childhood heroes […]

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My Kid Just Said… #50

Posted by on June 2nd, 2014, under "MY KID JUST SAID..."

“You know what I would do if I had The Force? Tickle YOU for once.” -Finn (2014, 4.5 years old)  We started watching Episode IV: A New Hope of Star Wars awesomeness. Finn is in. All the way. He did way better than I even anticipated. After we finished our first round, he said this […]

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Sunrise or Sunset?

Posted by on May 30th, 2014, under NOTEBOOK

Parents, there will be days when you may misremember which day it is. You will put your socks on backwards and wear clothing inside-out, from rise to fall. You will click your car key at your front door, half-expecting it to open before you. You will forget your children’s names, your spouse’s name and maybe […]

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Storming the Beaches

Posted by on May 20th, 2014, under NOTEBOOK

Another installment from my Instagram account, @CharlieCapen where I capture thoughts, and release them back into the ether of Instagram. But mainly, it’s a journal for my two boys. Typos are free of charge. “Finn: Today we woke at 6:30am and drove to the beach to see what answers we could find. Just the two […]

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My Kid Just Said… #48

Posted by on May 14th, 2014, under "MY KID JUST SAID..."

“We should rename Arden. His new name should be Squeaky Cheeks.” -Finn (2014, 4.5 years old)  Coming up with Arden’s name was pretty difficult. I think choosing boys’ names is actually harder than choosing a girl’s for some reason. Not sure why exactly, but there’s so much history with a boy’s name for me. I […]

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