How to Be a Dad

How to Be a Dad

Your Time Here

Posted by on November 20th, 2014, under NOTEBOOK

Dear Finn, Let me tell you the story of your life. Know that there will be exceptions, but this is the grand accounting of your human journey. You were born to two loving parents and these parents were afraid they would break you. They drove slowly coming home and lost a good deal of sleep […]

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The Diaper Changing Warzone

Posted by on November 18th, 2014, under EXTERNAL USE ONLY

That first poop-filled diaper. It’s a doozy. It’s like a poop mitzvah. It separates the pros from the amateurs. I remember mine well. I feel like an aid worker on the beaches of Florida after the BP oil spill if the oil had been shot out of a human butt cannon. Those are magical times. […]

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14 Years in Four Minutes

Posted by on November 14th, 2014, under EXTERNAL USE ONLY

I saw Interstellar last weekend with Avara. Let’s just say it was a parade of feels and angst. The movie, without giving anything away, deals with some pretty intense concepts when it comes to space and time. And no, not in a Doc Emmett Brown 1.21 JIGGAWATTs kind of way. It’s stayed with me. The […]

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Light Balance

Posted by on November 12th, 2014, under SNAPSHOTS

A photo posted by Charlie Capen (@charliecapen) on Nov 11, 2014 at 9:22pm PST We are comprised of light and dark, my sons. Some of us hide it better than others. Never compare your shadows or your sunshine against another’s. The aperture of you is all you need to work on. Let more light in, […]

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My Wife Just Said… #186

Posted by on November 10th, 2014, under "MY WIFE JUST SAID..."

“When Finn asked me to be Princess Leia for Halloween I thought “no way”. How could I hide all my imperfections in a very unforgiving white dress? But seeing this sweet boy’s eyes light up when he saw all of us dressed in costumes was beyond amazing!” -Avara   A photo posted by Avara Capen (@ithrowtp) […]

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5 Ways You Can Prevent Sucking At Fatherhood

Posted by on November 6th, 2014, under NOTEBOOK

Listen, no one is perfect, but we all want to do better as parents. Today, I want to give some advice, which while rare for HTBAD as a general rule, is something that becomes necessary following major life events, elections, global infections, and any general pants-shitting news. I want to give you five areas to […]

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BREAKING: Two Grown Men Act Like Children

Posted by on November 4th, 2014, under EXTERNAL USE ONLY

I love when people come to this site for the first time. I wonder what they’re expecting when they step foot on the Dagobah-like grounds of HTBAD. What were they looking for exactly? How did they find us? Did they think we could help? If anything is certain, it’s that nothing is certain in parenting. […]

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The Most Advanced Halloween Costume Ever

Posted by on October 31st, 2014, under EXTERNAL USE ONLY

Sometimes I wish I had more definable skills when it came to crafts. Specifically, I wish I could make better costumes and props for my kids. I love playing with my boys, and Halloween is my favorite holiday. My costumes are usually “meh” unless I have help. I suck at it. So, I get to […]

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Pretend Parenting

Posted by on October 29th, 2014, under NOTEBOOK

I’m not a perfect person. But, I like to pretend to think I am… When we found out WE were pregnant (I LOVE that phrase), I decided I would be the best father to ever walk the face of the Earth. All men before me would pale in comparison and children would flock from all […]

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My Wife Just Said… #184

Posted by on October 27th, 2014, under "MY WIFE JUST SAID..."

“The title for my autobiography will be ‘And Then I Fell Asleep…’” -Avara   Missing this guy terribly and it's only our first night apart😢 A photo posted by Avara Capen (@ithrowtp) on Jul 7, 2014 at 9:32pm PDT You don’t want to miss a moment. Of any of it. But sleep is needed to make the […]

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