How to Be a Dad

How to Be a Dad

5 Years Ago This Very Minute…

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I found out we were having our first baby five years ago to this very minute.

Rather than tell you about it, why don’t I show you…

I was at a staged reading of a friend’s script. We finished up and I felt this urgency from my wife, Avara. It was an energy like I needed to come home right away even though none of her actions or texts revealed what I was about to find out.

I came home and there was a present on the table. I greeted her and walked over to the bag. As soon as I touched the bag, I knew. That we were having a baby. That our lives would change. That someone special was joining us. All of it, at once.

This is a short excerpt of a video timeline I’ve been making of our family’s chronology. I wanted to share this personal moment with you because it’s important that you know my joy, our joy. Hopefully, I can share it and it will sort of be your joy, too.

Thanks for following our journey.

Don’t React To The Big News Like This
Because that would suck.


12 Responses to “5 Years Ago This Very Minute…”

  1. A valley girl, for sure says:

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    ~ You are so romantic ~
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  2. Christine Taylor says:


  3. Darren says:

    This was such a touching video, thank you so much for sharing it! I just want to say you’re luckier and far more blessed to have been able to experience these moments than you’ll ever realize: As a gay man who wishes someday to be a father, the path to becoming a dad won’t start as beautifully, or happen so quickly. Please cherish your sons and your wife and the love you share for them; it really is more special than you could ever know.

  4. Vi says:

    So sweet! Yep, that 1st positive test is always a n emotional ride! Lol.

  5. Tamara M. says:

    Totally sharing your JOY! SO beautiful! Happy 5 year anniversary as parents!!

  6. Laurie says:

    Love this, thanks for sharing!

  7. Adam says:

    That’s cool!

    We had our own version of this kind of discovery just last month…

  8. Your wife was radiant with joy. Great to see. Reminds me of my wife’s glow as well upon discovering we were having our first child. Beautiful time in one’s life. Thanks for sharing Charlie.

  9. Keira says:

    Aww, beautiful!
    I remember when I got that first positive test, followed by the 5 others I took…to be sure. I couldn’t believe it; I was told I would encounter fertility issues due to my past battles with anorexia. My miracle baby.

    That first moment when you realise you are going to be a parent is amazing…whether it’s through pregnancy, adoption, surrogacy etc.

  10. Victoria says:

    I cried. I remember those moments with my kiddos. At first my reaction wasn’t exactly tears of joy more like vomit of terror!!!!

  11. Jill C says:

    Our first pregnancy test, in 1988 was like a chemistry set. 5 drops of this, 3 drops of that, some kind of granules or something. Shake it up in a TEST TUBE, and it came with a test tube holder that had an angled mirror at the bottom. Then go bite your nails (because you are 19 and not married – yet), for F O R T Y F I V E minutes. We played Rummy. He won.
    You were pregnant if there was a circle reflected in the mirror. I don’t know how much it cost, because I was feeling so rotten he went and bought it at the drug store for us.
    Still married, 26 years later, 4 kids.

  12. paddy says:

    Beautiful..thanks for sharing.

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