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My Wife Just Said… #142

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“I know this is crazy, but I actually got sad thinking no more babies after Arden.”ย –Avara



After all the emotional moments, harrowing childbirth and now the unending sleeplessness, my wife confesses the incredible irony of life and perhaps a secret of our existence.

We want to live on and grow, even if that means we temporarily lose sight of how much work, how little sleep and how intense it is for us. And we want our lives filled with love no matter the cost.

Or maybe that’s the sleep deprivation and newborn baby smell producing a narcotic effect. ๐Ÿ˜‰


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14 Responses to “My Wife Just Said… #142”

  1. Jo says:

    Well, did you guys do something permanent to make sure you don’t?!? Cuz if ya didn’t… Who knows what might happen down the road??? ๐Ÿ˜‰

  2. Allison says:

    I cried after my second one for the same reason. I knew I didn’t really wanna do it again. But, I was mourning the loss of being pregnant and giving birth and all the stuff that comes with it. Every milestone I hit with my second child, it made me a little sad knowing it would be the last time. They get more fun as they grow up, and I’m sleeping a lot more now (they’re 4 and 1.5), but sometimes I miss the 2am feedings and their smell and all the craziness!

  3. Angela says:

    I’m in the same boat as your wife. It’s just kind of wired that way in some of us I think, even though I constantly think ‘what am I doing with two kids, what the hell was I thinking’.

  4. Jill says:

    Hey, I had a baby when my next youngest was 18 and had just graduated from high school and left the nest. I can highly recommend it.
    And I know two people with at least one “extra” kid in the family due to failed vasectomies. So, good luck there.

    “Life finds a way.”

  5. Bebe says:

    Two of my friends both told me about breakdowns they each had suffered at different points while shopping alone in Target after giving birth to their second and last, babies. Either it’s mourning the loss of having babies or it’s Target.

  6. Meagan says:

    I get teary every once in awhile when I think about our daughter being our last, but then I remind myself that I’ve been blessed with two beautiful, healthy children annnnd…. The reminder of 36 weeks of non-stop vomiting and the horrible c-section recoveries… That snaps me right back into my ‘two-is-great’ reality.

  7. Cormac says:

    After my daughter was born she swore she would never go through that again, the pregnancy was rough on her.

    After my son 3 years later, she saying no, never don’t let me do that again, I really can’t have anymore, I found that pregnancy awful. (honestly it was rough, 3 months of vomiting, months 8-9 were laid up because she couldn’t walk, never mind the rough time after the birth)

    Now that we’ve had our 2nd son, she wants me to promise that no matter how much she begs, treatens etc WE ARE NOT TO HAVE ANY MORE CHILDREN!!!!!

  8. Typhoonamy says:

    That baby smell sent me into hysterics when my two oldest children were 12 and 14. My youngest is now 3. ;).

  9. Katie says:

    My Daughter’s name is Arden too!! Rare name ๐Ÿ™‚

  10. Andrea says:

    If she is breastfeeding, then she is high on hormones ๐Ÿ˜‰

  11. James says:

    There is something weirdly final and chapter-closing about it. We’re not saying we’re not doing out again, but they two keep us busy enough to forget about additionally madness in the house. That and we’re loving the sleep again.

  12. Scatha Pennicat says:

    Newborn babies are addicting. Hence why we have 4 so far, the newest a 5 month old. May go for more, who knows.

  13. Chris Green says:

    LOL Someone asked if you did something permanent to prevent that. Let me be the first to say bwaahahahaha. We had our 4, and 15 years later we had that “permanent” thing surgically reversed, and had 2 more. So now our kids range in age from 10-33. I have 9 grandkids now too. Tell Avara to look forward to grandkids. All the fun, without all the work!

  14. Liesbet says:

    Seriously, for the first three to five months after our second kid was born, I desperately wanted to believe he was not the last one! Even though Sam was only a newborn at the time, not sleeping through the night, sucking the life out of me (literally. It’s called breastmilk but it sometimes feels like liquid energy) and I couldn’t even IMAGINE ever having sex without pain again, I definitely wanted a third.
    It faded.

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